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November 17, 2010

This post is taken from another blog I write…a more personal journal…you can take a look at it here: http://lilis-diary15.blogspot.com/

My diary posts are almost always inspired by conversation topics that I find to be recurring at any given point in time. Don’t you sometimes feel like certain issues just keep on crossing your path? I don’t know how or why it happens, but it always gets me thinking…

These past few days I’ve been thinking a lot about our insecurities and our personal thoughts on our own self-worth. Well, I can’t say it’s a new topic on this blog, I’m quite sure I’ve mentioned it several times in the past, but for some reason the issues seems a little more pressing…not only in my mind, but in the minds of others. Recent conversations with friends (from various circles might I add), and the December 2010 issue of Shape Magazine has me convinced that I’m not the only one that ponders or struggles with this issue.

Somewhere, deep in the back of my restless, vast (though not necessarily crowded) mind, I know that I have come a long way. I am sure that I have accomplished a lot…whether it be in terms of education or in terms of health and fitness. I know it. But how often do I believe it? That’s a different story…

One of the several articles in Shape that focus on this issue brought up an interesting point: “Most people pay attention to the huge achievements int heir lives: running a marathon, hitting a five-year mark on their marriage, losing 25 pounds. But by also celebrating your smaller triumphs, you’ll be happier and up your odds of reaching those bigger feats.” (p. 32) As obvious as this statement might sound, when I read it I kind of experienced a eureka moment. A marathon of interviews recently, for both small part-time retail positions and larger full-time career jobs, forced me to speak openly about my past accomplishments. I had no trouble rambling on and on about the charity fashion shows I organized, or my graduation from a top Canadian university, but never once did I come out and say “well, yesterday I was especially tired, hungover and lazy, but I got my ass to the gym and did the best that I could anyways, even if it was half of what I usually do.” Why not? In retrospect I realize what an accomplishment that was for me, at that moment in time, and how much of a struggle it turned out to be, but at the time I would never see it that way. Why not, again? Because at the time, all my negative mind could focus on was how upset I was at the fact that I wasn’t doing my best and that my workout wasn’t as intense or as long as it should have been. Maybe if I focused on how much it was I would have felt much more confident (which is exactly how I should feel) slapping on a skirt and nylons that same evening for a night out on the town…

Isn’t it so funny how our mind works? …But is it our mind, or how our mind is trained to think? Sometimes I feel like we programmed to expect the worst and dismiss the best. A friend of mine said to me recently that whenever she’s blessed with a bit of success, the thought of it being ripped away from her scares her away from pursuing the said opportunity she’s presented with. I’ve felt that many times myself.

Isn’t it funny how I am now exactly who I wanted to be 5, 10, 15 years ago, yet I’m still not satisfied? The chubby, teased little girl of my past is screaming and yelling at me from inside, reminding me how many tears were cried in yearning of the body I’ve worked so hard to achieve….why do I keep silencing her?

Isn’t it funny…how the things we are most hard on ourselves are the things that people seem to compliment us the most on?

Isn’t it funny…how after one hurtful experience, we are so quick to build a wall around our emotions and ourselves, that seems so impenetrable? That one hurtful relationship outcome fills us up with so much self doubt and drains us of our self love to the point where moving forward seems so daunting, so impossible?

Isn’t it funny that when we initially receive a compliment, of any kind, we are elated, but in the end, how long do we actually carry it with us? I’m speaking for myself only, but I find as soon as I step back into the ever-critical workings of my mind, the kind words and happy thoughts are instantly replaced with harsh reminders of all the goals I have yet to achieve.

I wish I could conclude this post with a suggestion, with encouraging words. And I don’t want to be depressing or negative. There are days when I could run to the top of the mountain and shout to the world how proud I am of myself. But then there are the dark days, when I can feel the failure in every over-worked muscle in my body…including my heart, my mind. I think that we all need to realize that these painful feelings are unavoidable. That no one can be positive all the time. That the gym won’t always make you feel better after you binged one too many times. I think the second we can see past these feelings, when we are plagued with them, we will realize that the brighter side as never really left us, that it will creep into our horizon again slowly, if only we have a itty bitty bit of patience, if we just keep on keepin’ on…

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